Why You Should Talk to a Lawyer
There are various reasons why always I recommend that someone talk to a lawyer even if a divorce is not eminent. The main reason is the old saying that knowledge is power. It can also be a great source of peace. I have met with many clients who had been misinformed by a spouse or a third party about what will happen if a marriage ends in a divorce whether in property, support or custody areas. Many times, the misinformation leads to understandable fear of what could happen. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to decide what is truly right for you and your family when the 'only' outcome would be tragic. When we operate from a place of fear or misunderstanding, many times we don't make the best choices for ourselves and our family.
If you're going through a difficult marital situation and you are dealing with stress or fear of what could happen, I recommend that you take an hour or two and spend time with a knowledgeable domestic relations attorney who can answer your questions and help you understand the process and the law. Once you have gained an understanding of the likely scenarios (in many cases there are more than one likely scenario) you will be better able to decide what is best for you and your family.
I often tell my clients that it is not my job to convince them to get a divorce or separate from their spouse, but it is my job to make sure they understated what their options are, how the process works and what I believe, based on my knowledge and experience, likely outcomes are. Once a client has this information, they can go back and reevaluate their life, where they are, where they want to be and how to get there without the fear of the unknown or fear of misinformation weighing heavily into that thought process
Making a decision to separate or obtain a divorce can be tough, scary and at times overwhelming. Even the most experienced attorney cannot eliminate all what-ifs, but having even a general understanding of what may lie ahead will allow you to make an informed decision, knowing what will come next and how to prepare for it.
By Molly Garrett